Here is a video of John Gray speaking at Google. He speaks about testosterone in men and how it is released by problem solving and helps men relax. He mentions that men die on average a year after retiring from their jobs because they are no longer solving problems and getting their testosterone fix. They have low testosterone levels and then get a heart attack. Women on the other hand are not relaxed by testosterone, they relax with oxytocin but that arises in women in very different circumstances to how testosterone arises in men. It is important to understand how and when oxytocin arises in women. It arises from the activity of giving love, nurturing. And the inhibitor of oxytocin production is not enough time. But there is a lot more in this video than there is in my quick summary.
Excellent video, and the hormonal difference of men and women is absolutely a natural fact. It operates our bodies differently. The key is to find a balance. The great injustice I see today is men telling women not to nurture, calling them codependent, when this in fact is the source of her happiness, boosting her oxytocin. Many conversations online about why are women so unhappy, he nails that with great accuracy. What else is brilliant, is men are no longer trained to contain their hormones. It is not that society wishes to be mean or cruel to men, but the act of teaching a man to contain his emotions, in fact makes him a healthier and happier man. I also agree with this lie, that we are all one, or the same. The power that gives us life is one, but the vessel in which is powers are all difference. Psychology knows each individual has a various balance, based on the Myers & Briggs personality test, that is to say, our brain will operate introvert vs extrovert, which is also a key to understanding our own view of the world.
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